Transition Coaching involves sorting out the life-giving and life-draining elements that have helped create where we are today, and what we want to do about it? Identifying blind-spots that are affecting our potential choices and outcomes. Acceptance of our current situation and then strategizing the most practical, effective and enthusiastic ways to get from point A to B to C...
During transitional times we often turn to friends and family members, which can be a great source of comfort; however, these are not always the best relationships to help us move forward. A friend is more prone to embrace you as they remember you and they want you back the way you were!
To truely embrace the challenge and opportunity of transitional times, a coach will acknowledge your current situation and then observe, listen and reflect who you are ready, willing and able to become. A coach is able to stand with you, fears, doubts, confusion and all! The bottom line is you are not the same person you were as much as you might wish you could be. It might not feel like it in the moment, however, transitional times always bring wonderful gifts with them!
Experience is the Master Teacher
Although it is not necessary to have the same personal experiences as our clients to be an effective coach, it can be helpful at times.
As a truly experiential learner myself here are some transitional highlights from my life: Life after a corporate career -- self employment -- embracing new vocations (letting go of the familiar) -- cross country move away from family -- becoming a young father -- divorce -- being a single parent -- child attending an out of state college -- the empty nest (is a real thing) -- embracing a spiritual path -- turning fifty -- adult education - death of a parent -- caring for an elderly parent -- our children as adults -- health and wellness lifestyle choices (or mandates) -- rapid advances in technology -- and more...
We'll help you discover what's really most important to you in your life.
- We'll identify your natural strengths, talents and motivations
- We'll design a supportive environment to achieve your goals.
- We'll identify obstacles or patterns you tend to avoid or ignore
- We'll uncover blocks and life-draining beliefs hiding under your radar
- I am your partner through all your efforts, attempts and setbacks
- All the way to a celebration of your highest success!
Practice, Patience, Persistence
We have spent many years learning to act the way we are now. It may take some time and trial and error to unlearn and relearn. Transitional Coaching offers you an environment of compassionate support in which to learn, experiment, succeed and sometimes fail. Practice, patience and persistence are a key to success, as Napoleon Hill states in a famous quote: "Their greatest success came just one step beyond the point in which defeat had taken them over" (Hill).
Strengths vs. Weakness
Unfortunately, most of us have little sense of our talents and strengths much less the ability to build our lives around them. Instead, guided by our parents, teachers, managers and psychology's obsession with pathology, we become experts in our weaknesses and spend our lives trying to repair these flaws while our strengths lie dormant and neglected. - D. Clifton
Language and Listening
Developing the capacity to listen to our own listening and to intervene and shift our listening is a central aspect of true learning. Ontological Coaching tools such as: Assessments, Assertions, Promises and Declarations can greatly impact our wellness, effectiveness and success.
Truth Loves a Witness
Last but certainly not least I offer what may be the most compelling element of all. The absolute magic that is often revealed through authentic inquiry and conversation with an objective and compassionate witness.
